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Is it summer or just a vacation?

How is it September already? I know we say this every summer, but really, where did the summer go? I know summer is kind of a loose term here in Cali since we don’t get winter like most of us think of winter, but the kids are back in school so summer is, as we like to think of it, now over!

It was an interesting summer for us to say the least. From the moment we left IN it just kind of felt like a vacation. We expected our drive out here would feel like that, but that “feeling” didn’t really go away once we got to CA. Now don’t get me wrong, I have had several moments where it didn’t feel like vacation at all. Say for instance, arriving in a new state where you know a total of 5 people (and one of those 5 was a toddler, an adorable one, but a toddler nonetheless) and then your husband leaves for a work trip for 5 days. You are the one who gets to make sure the truck carrying all of our belongings gets to a house that is so new it barely shows up on Google Maps! Then there is the unloading and unpacking so you can feel some sort of normalcy – even if that “normalcy” is sleeping on mattresses on the floor for 4 nights. Then add in that you don’t know how to get anywhere and there are all sorts of things to be bought. Oh and throw in the fact that our neighborhood is new and there are new houses going up everyday, so they gate off the back entrance into the neighborhood at night, and that’s the way your GPS always wants to take you! The kids just reminded me that I had a moment that first week where I tried to get in that back way at night and couldn’t so had to turn around and hope and pray that Google maps would re-route me the right way (which of course it did and my mini panic attack subsided :))!

All I can say is thank goodness I had my 3 kids to help those first few days. They completely unpacked the entire kitchen for me. Yep, they were rock stars.

Even though that week was a tad stressful, it still at times felt like a vacation. We were eating out a lot and buying many new things, oh and also having dessert on a regular basis (the McMullens’ do love their dessert). I had to keep reminding the kids that we weren’t on vacation – that this was just a stage in the process, and as soon as life got settled it would be back to normal.

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Well, that didn’t really happen! There were too many new things to experience here. It was summer after all so “why not” was my motto. Our summer adventures were pretty amazing. We hit the beach and the pool often, Ty paddle-boarded and learned to surf, we went to Sea World with my family, spent an afternoon in La Jolla (pretty sure this is my favorite Cali spot so far). We went to the Surfing and Skateboarding competition on Huntington Beach, watched some beach volleyball Olympians play on Long Beach, and did something the kids have been begging to do for quite awhile…Universal Studios (pretty sure that day went down as one of their faves of the summer)!! We also traveled back to Utah for a family reunion. We got to spend time with family that we hadn’t seen in years and it was SO much fun!

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But even doing all of those things, we still had a lot of down time. The kids hadn’t really met anyone yet, so I became their entertainment…every day! Now, don’t get me wrong, I love my kids and love spending time with them, but the question of the day (every single day, and I’m not exaggerating) was “what are we going to do today?” Soon that question became very annoying. I have never been a parent that feels like I need to entertain my children, but then I also felt badly because I knew they had no one else but their family. But we made it through, and we all still want to spend time together so I guess that is a good sign 🙂

Even though we had moments of sadness and nothing really felt normal, I am pretty sure this summer will go down as the summer that felt like a 2 month vacation…and you know what? I am perfectly fine with that!

 

 

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Ditch your beach vacation- like now!!

As I said in my last blog post we decided to turn our drive out to Cali into a mini vacation and see all sorts of things along the way. We knew we might need that time together as a family, to reconnect and remember what it was like to be a family of 5 again, and boy were we right! It felt so good to be together, even if we were stuck in a packed car where you could barely move 🙂

What a trip it was! I have to give a HUGE shoutout to my husband, as he plotted and planned the whole thing out! We asked the kids as we were planning it what they had to see and they all said the Grand Canyon hands down, so we planned our trip out around that, but man did we see so many other things.

We took 6 days to drive from IN to CA. Our first day was driving from IN to SD. We didn’t leave till 4:30pm and had 9+ hours of driving ahead of us – but it was a must do so that we could get all of our other stops in.

We did A LOT of driving, a lot of sight seeing and not a whole lot of sleeping (we lived off my mantra, “you can sleep when you die”). Here are the amazing things we saw/did:

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  • The Badlands: We decided last minute to stop and it ended up being one of our family faves

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  • Mt. Rushmore: Very cool!

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  • Crazy Horse: This was probably our least favorite stop.

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  • Devils Tower: Another fun stop that we got in just before dark… And with just enough gas to almost run out…

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  • Powell & Cody, WY: Spent the day in Wyoming seeing where Daryl spent 7 years growing up, it was so fun to see it all through his eyes. And we went to the famous Cody Nite Rodeo, a first for me and the kids!

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  • Yellowstone/Old Faithful: Nothing like seeing wild animals walk up right next to you.

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  • Grand Tetons: Umm WOW!

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  • Sandy, UT: Did our first real family hike in Utah with my family. I had no idea how beautiful Utah was, I think we were all smitten!

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  • Grand Canyon: We hiked about a mile down into the canyon, pretty sure we told the kids about a hundred times to make sure they stayed next to the rocks and AWAY from the edge! 🙂

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  • The Hoeft’s (Phoenix, AZ): We spent our last night on the road with friends from Granger who moved to AZ, it was so good for my soul to have that time with them and their family!

It was an absolutely amazing 6 days. I found myself feeling so grateful that we got to see and experience all the things we did. You really have no idea how amazing and beautiful the “West” is until you see it first hand! Here is what I would tell you…whatever you thought your next family vacation would be (the beach, another country, etc.) don’t do it until you have seen the west

Take the time and the money to see the west, it will be worth every hour in the car and every penny spent.

I mean it…cancel the beach trip you had planned…like right now!! Remember, this is coming from the girl who LOVES the beach!!

It really is a once in a lifetime trip and I am beyond grateful that our family was able to experience all that we did!

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The Adventure Begins

THE NEWS

A few years ago, Tammy and I began talking about the future, and started asking questions like:

  • Where do we see ourselves in 5 years? 10 years?
  • Do we want to stay in this climate or find a warmer place to live?
  • Did we see ourselves doing the same thing for the next 10 years?

After talking, then going back to living life, then talking again several times, we finally determined that we were both on the same page.

We were both ready for a change.

So early this year we began the process of putting out feelers, asking around and keeping our ears to the ground. Applications were filled out and interviews had. But nothing seemed to be standing out as the summer set in.

Then an opportunity came up that seemed a little far fetched. A friend of a friend said there was a church in California looking for someone to lead the charge on their new digital strategy – including the impending launch of a brand new website.

So talks began. There were phone interviews, and then there was a trip to California to see what it was all about. Then more phone conversations. Then an official offer.

tammy-daryl-cali-summerWhich we accepted.

Truth be told, California wasn’t even on our radar. We were looking to move somewhere warm, but assumed it would be the Southeast: Florida, South Carolina, North Carolina, etc

But it’s strange how things work when you open yourself up to change and are willing to let God guide you through the process, and guide He did. We’ve been in constant prayer through it all – asking God to close doors if this wasn’t where He wanted us. But the closed door never came. In fact, around every corner there seemed to be a reassurance that we were headed in the right direction and that this was the plan He had for our family!

THE DETAILS

In October, we told the team at Granger Community Church that we had accepted the position at Mariners Church in Irvine, CA.

This fall Daryl made a few trips to Mariners to help them prepare for, and launch their new website. He’s been home for the holidays and will be moving to California the first week of January.

Tammy and the kids will stay here so the kids can finish out the school year and then the whole family will make the move to Cali in June. There will be some trips home between now and then. Tammy and the kids will be making a trip out in January so the kids can see California before actually moving there.

THE EMOTIONS

This has been the hardest part, hands down!

Tammy and I began attending GCC back in 1997 – when it was just a little box that saw 6 services come and go each weekend. Attending the church led to strengthened spiritual lives, friendships, volunteer teams and eventually a full time job for Daryl. We fell in love with GCC and will always have a place in our hearts for the ministry that exists here. We wish the church much success and know that many lives will be impacted because of its ongoing presence in Michiana.

Daryl would tell you he found his dream job when he was hired at the church. And for nearly 10 years he got up and looked forward to going to work. His team changed over the years, but the relationships formed were for a lifetime. We understand that the staff culture and level of excellence at GCC is nothing short of amazing.

We also knew when we made this decision that it would mean leaving behind family and friends. Both of our parents live close by and Tammy’s brother and his family are within a couple of hours. One of the great things about being so close to family is that you can spend holidays, birthdays and any other time in-between with them. They can come to the kids sporting events, plays, choir concerts, etc. Those are things we don’t take for granted! We know how important that stuff is to our kids.

Do you have friends in your life that are like family? You know, those people that if you could choose your family you would choose them? We do! These are people that we have raised our babies with. We have experienced mountain top highs and heart breaking lows together. We have spent holidays and vacations together. We have traditions. We came up with a group name that we can yell and the kids know we are calling all of them. We have done life with these people for 15+ years! These people aren’t just our friends, they are our family.

We also have many other friends in our lives that mean a great deal to us. People that you absolutely love hanging out with, people that you trust your kids with, people that you have spent countless hours with on the soccer field, baseball field or ice rink. People that you know will help you out when you’re in a bind. And you would do the same for them. We don’t take any of these friendships for granted, we know how special they each are and we feel very blessed to call them friends!

It’s for every reason listed above that made our decision to pick our family up and move to CA one the hardest, most emotional decisions we’ve had to make. Many tears have been shed, and we know there will be more to come! Is there joy and excitement? Absolutely! But there is also a deep sadness for us and our kids!

We are trusting God and leaning into His will now more than ever. We are allowing our faith to be bigger than our fear! This is a HUGE step for our whole family, and the one thing we would ask of you is to pray for us. Pray that we all survive our family being in 2 places for the next 6 months without too many scars. Pray for the kids, that there friendships here will remain and that there will be new friends in CA waiting just for them. Pray for all the logistics here and there as we prepare to sell our house, and find one there. Pray that we will finish strong and love well here.

We are excited for what God has in store for us. We are looking forward to the warm weather, sunny skies and the abundance of things to do in CA. We are on an adventure of a lifetime and as long as the 5 of us are together with God by our side we know it will all be good in the end.

Our prayer for each and every one of you as you enter 2016 is that you let your faith be bigger than your fear! Step out and take some risks. Do that one thing that you have always dreamed of. Now is the time, today is your day! Tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. Live without regrets and trust in God with all you have!

Love,

Tammy & Daryl

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